There’s a lot going on in the world, too much and we’re burdened by the over stimulation of choices.
I get it!
I too just want to wake up without stress, get a good days work in and enjoy the fruits of my labor.
Yet, we take on burdens, often caused by the negative fear messages that we’re constantly being bombarded with and wonder why we’re sick and tired or not achieving our goals.
So how do we cope?
The good news is you have a choice and to NOT make a choice IS a choice towards negativity.
Whenever something bad happens to us, it’s easy for us to slip into one of the following behaviors:
Depression. The road to depression is a slippery slope and one to constantly mange.
Self-victimization. “This isn’t fair!” we exclaim. “Why is this happening to me?” with references of luck or good future to follow as if you don’t have a choice in the way circumstances play out.
Reacting with anger. Get even, make others pay and become the vindictive judge to make all wrongs, right.
Self-blame. We make self-depreciating comments like “Why am I so stupid to have done that?” “Only someone like myself can make such a dumb mistake.”
Dejection or quitting. Loosing hope is a scary thing and carries an energy of despair to it, sadly attracting other like emotions thereby validating the problem. It’s a negative spiral and difficult to stop since you begin to question your values and overall purpose.
You can CHOOSE a positive solution.
Here are 9 easy to use tips on coping with negativity.
1. Feel Your Feelings. Release your frustrations.
Get in touch with how crappy the whole thing feels. Acknowledge them. Validate them. And then let them go. Exercise. Call a friend. Journal. Pray. Meditate. Stay in action and work through, versus around feelings.
2. Realize you are not alone.
No matter what you may think, you’re not alone in this. Somewhere around the world, someone else is thinking the exact same thing as you. Someone out there is feeling down and out too, wondering why she is experiencing this. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.
3. Objectify it.
There are only 2 things you control. The thoughts in your head and the words that you use. So, remove the feelings and look at you situation objectively and you’ll immediately feel more clear.
4. Being frustrated isn’t going to solve anything.
The problem will still remain whether you go berserk at it or whether you think about it calmly. The former will create more problems as your agitation prevents you from making good decisions. I knew remaining frustrated was not going to help me get my 200 pages back, so I focused on what could be done instead (#6).
5. Focus on the Solution
Action will empower you and the Quality, is in the Quantity. Which means, stay in action even if it’s not perfect. Passivity is your dragon, slay it!
6. Know you always have a choice.
Realize no matter, you are AT choice. No, you’re not in control and there are a thousand variables to life’s up and downs of the roller coaster ride, but only YOU control your behaviors.
7. Do You Need Help?
You are NOT alone. Look left and right and you’ll see a crowd of people with the same problems as you everywhere. But…the ego wants to convince us we live in isolation and the ONLY one on the planet with our trouble. Call a friend, get into a self-help support group but surround yourself with people that are solution oriented.
8. What are you Learning
If you look back at your last obstacle, you learned something. Face it, we learn in trials and grow in frustrations. It’s what keeps us pushing forward and reaching for things beyond our grasp to attain and become.
9. See this as an Adventure.
That’s right, a straight up adventure. Look, the ole “darkness” isn’t personal. It’s not the devil with a pitchfork out to get you or take you down. It exists for ONE purpose, to make you stronger. If everything is happening EXACTLY the way it’s supposed to, then you can embrace it easier because you didn’t cause it. Things happen for a reason and usually, we have no clue what that reason is.
Hey, I listen to people all day every day about their problems and the ones that year-after-year make consistent advances forward, work these nine steps above.
What has been useful for you?
Feel free to share with everyone in the comments area below or reach out to me at Info@NoelMcDermott.net
As always, I’m here working for your peace of mind.
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CLIENT: Noel McDermott
TITLE: Dealing with Negativity in Troubled Times
DATE: February 25, 2017